When God Says, “NO”!

I have prayed many prayers and of course expected a yes answer; in His time. But what if my answer was a “No”. This thought came to me today, well if God doesn’t want  to answer my prayer with a yes. What then?  How do I  react, what are my feelings toward God; will I be angry, disturbed or even become bitter. Would I question God and say, “why not”?  Did God say no in the bible to prayer request? I really don’t know the answer to those questions. So it’s my quest for this blog to search for the answers and share my findings with you. So let’s begin our journey.

Let’s start by looking at our earthly father. Did my Dad always answer yes to all my request? Not really because he would always say, “ask your mother’. And of course Mom had no trouble saying no when necessary. Looking back now, I really see that no wasn’t always a bad thing. No was for our own good, for our protection, safety and well being. It didn’t mean they loved us any less but sometimes a no answer was a, “because I love you so much answer”. So I believe there is a great parallel between my earthly father and my Heavenly Father. When God sometimes says, no, it’s because He has a greater yes in store for me/us.

Let’s explore the Bible and search for times when God said, no, to His people. In 1 Chronicles 28:3, God said no to David. ‘God said to me, “David told his people, “You shall NOT build a house for My name because you are a man of war and have shed blood”. But in his parting words, David chose to focus on what God had allowed him to do. Rather than wallowing in self- pity or bitterness regarding his unfulfilled dream, David praised God with a grateful heart. O may I learn  from David and have a grateful heart. Right now, that’s not exactly  where I am but through my weakness, I will find my way and gratitude will come.

The Bible says, “If we ask anything according to HIS WILL….we have what we asked of Him (1 John 5:14-15). This verse tells me there will be “no” answers, if what we are praying for is not His will. Here we must trust that God knows what He’s doing and sometimes in our human flesh we may be outside the will of God. “thy will be done on earth has it is in Heaven”.

The apostle Paul, author of most of the New Testament, begged God three times to remove a thorn in his flesh and God said, “no” (2 Corinthians 12:7-10). God had a greater purpose in mind, far above what Paul could ever imagine.

Then  one of the greatest “no” answers to a prayer was Jesus himself. When He prayed to His Heavenly Father, the night before He died on the cross, that He would rid Him of His suffering and God said “NO” (Mark 14:32-42). If God  hadn’t told Jesus no, we would have never had the opportunity of salvation!

Now on a more personal level, I have prayed to God countless times and  got a “no” answer. That can sometimes leave us angry, we question God and ask God, “why not?” It can make us feel that God is not listening to us or doesn’t care. But none of that is true. God loves us with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). God has our best interest at heart, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11). The song says, ” My HOPE is built on nothing less, then Jesus blood and righteousness”.

When my Dad was diagnosed with stage four liver cancer, my world was forever changed. My Dad was a man of great faith and if faith had anything to do with being healed, then he would certainly have been healed. But God’s answer was “no”. I couldn’t understand; weeks later he passed away. But he left me with the greatest answer to my question of why God says “NO”. On his death bed he had an amazing attitude and trust in God. For he said,”I cannot loose, either way I will win. I will be healed or if not, I will still win because I will go to my home in Heaven that God has prepared for those who love and serve Him. Through Jesus dying on the cross, He had taken away the sting of death. “Where, o death, is your victory? Where , o death, is your sting? The sting of death is sin and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 15:55-57). So even when God said “no”, Dad still won and was victorious through our Lord Jesus.

With my own illness, I have sought God’s  healing numerous times but because He hasn’t healed me completely, doesn’t mean that His healing hasn’t taken place in my life and for that I am grateful. And with Lauren’s Cerebral Palsy I have often wondered ; where’s the fairness? What’s the purpose? I have more questions than answers for our lives’ struggles. But there’s one thing I’ve learned and that is, I could never do this in my own strength. I lean every day on Him, for He said in 2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for thee, for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities (boast in my weaknesses), that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

So I guess God does not always answer our prayers with a yes. And I’m sure that is for the best; God knows what he’s doing. In our finite minds we cannot see the big picture. I’m learning everyday to put my trust and faith in Him, especially when He says, “No”! And when He does I have to realize that it’s for my good, it’s not to hurt me or that He loves me any less. So sometimes when we feel our prayers go unanswered, God is listening always. In His time, in His way, He will answer!